As a single twenty something woman I know all about dating. I know that some dates are dreadful and others are painful. I know that even if you do have a good date it doesn't mean he's the guy for you. I know that a good date can very quickly turn sour with a stupid comment or a hint of a characteristic that you dislike. Dating's hard work.
1. Once difference between dating in books and dating in the real world is the conversations. It's impossible to hold a conversation with a complete stranger for a couple of hours but that's what is expected when you're on a first date. The conversation is all starts and stops and awkward pauses. It's even worse when you're on a blind date set up by friends or it's with someone you met on an internet dating site.
2. Another difference is how quickly everything escalates. In our favourite books it doesn't matter how quickly the hero falls in love, it's never too quick but in real life if a guy gets all sentimental too early on its a major turn off.
3. The goodbye is another one. In romance novels there's always a kiss. In reality not so much. There might be a kiss but it's awkward at best. At worst there's an attempt and a fail.
It isn't that the guys we date aren't as interesting as the guys in the books we read. It isn't that they are unattractive. It's more that the guys in the books we read just aren't real. The thing is though, that's why the books we read are magical. It's the unreality of them all. It's the wishful side of all our own stories.